Staying in our current situations, no matter how bad, seems to be the norm for most people. Why? It is easier to stay in what we know than to take the risk of stepping out and doing something else. This line of thought fits into the old adage that it’s better to deal with the devil you know than the devil you don’t know. If you’re in a situation that you can’t stand, how long do you wait it before you can’t take it any longer? How much do you put up with before you say enough is enough? My experience has been that we wait way too long to finally decide to make a change. So we are in a situation where we are desperate and follow whatever we can to get out of our problem. This often leads to another bad situation made out of desperation.
So what should we do? First, recognize the reality of your situation now. Meaning, really examine where you are and what’s going on. Ask the right questions. Will the situation get better? Will you be able to deal with it and be happy? Are you able to make changes that will make it work? How are things in the rest of your life? Do you look forward to each day or dread each day?
These questions should give you a clear view of where you are and the direction you should head. If you can see you are not where you want to be and it doesn’t show promise of improving soon, what are you going to do about it. Are you going to continue to struggle through it or are you going to make a change? If you are going to make a change, I suggest you do so in a planned manner, not in a knee jerk, reactive manner. As an example, don’t just walk into your boss and say you quite without a plan in place. You do have to eat and have a roof over your head.
Having someone in your life that will want what is best for you is so important when you decide to make a big change. Someone that can help you without worrying what’s in it for them. You need someone to bounce ideas off of, someone that will help you develop a plan that will work. A person who will help keep you accountable. A person who will help you see options you may have overlooked. A person that will be a cheerleader for you and someone that can tell you when you’re off the path and help you find your way back.
The fear of the devil you don’t know can be crippling. The self-doubt, paralyzing. The feeling of not being able to see a light out of the dark tunnel, overwhelming. But your true path is there. It may be just outside of your reach right now, but there is a way to get to it. There is a way to wake up every morning, ready for life’s adventures. There is a way!
But the real question is, are you ready to make a change? Are you really ready to live the life you were meant to live? If you are, I can help.